Hear from a few of our ClearView women who are involved in relationships that are intentional and transformational. Their journeys look different but the purpose is the same – to teach women to live in God’s glory according to His truth.
My Mentoring Story...
Mentor: Alicia Claxton
Scripture is full of examples that demonstrate the value of relational mentoring. Moses and Joshua. Naomi and Ruth. Eli and Samuel. Nathan and David. David and Solomon. Mordecai and Esther. Paul and Timothy. The list goes on.
The calling to pour ourselves into the next generation is beautiful because it’s biblical. There is incredible joy that comes with developing relationships that are focused on spiritual growth and transformation. Psalm 145 gives us a glimpse into the heart of biblical mentoring:
4 One generation will declare your works to the next and will proclaim your mighty acts. 5 I will speak of your splendor and glorious majesty and your wondrous works. 6 They will proclaim the power of your awe-inspiring acts, and I will declare your greatness. 7 They will give a testimony of your great goodness and will joyfully sing of your righteousness. Psalm 145:4-7 (CSB).
To mentor is to share our stories and our lives with those younger than us in a redemptive way; to constantly point them to the character of God and testify to His faithfulness; to challenge them in every circumstance to look for God’s hand and trust His heart as they journey through the ups and downs of life.
Earlier this year, I was asked to consider mentoring a younger woman from ClearView who wanted to go deeper in her faith. I didn’t say yes because I felt like I had a ton of wisdom to offer her, I said yes because I could sense the Lord was in it and I wanted to be obedient. So, one evening in May I met Kelly Meadors for dinner at a local restaurant. From our first conversation (around a table full of comfort food and sweet tea), I got excited about the possibility of walking through this season of life with her. I knew right away that God would shape both of our lives in different ways through this process. And that has proven to be true for me already.
When we first started meeting consistently, we took a more casual approach. We would find a time every few weeks to connect and talk about life, then we’d pray together. We would meet at a park, at a restaurant or at my house. After several months of getting to know each other, we decided to tackle a more structured Bible study together. Now, Kelly and I try to meet once a week (whenever possible). We’re about halfway through a study called “Seamless” which has sparked great conversations about God’s redemptive story woven into the pages of Scripture. Through our times together, my own faith and passion for God’s Word has deepened.
As I pray for Kelly during the week, I’m often reminded of the women in my life who have walked alongside me and spurred me on. Women I admire and respect, who have poured into me by speaking truth, extending grace, listening to my story and always pointing me back to Jesus. Women who have lived out their faith in front of me through good times and bad. This is the kind of mentor I hope to be for Kelly in this season of her life.
A few practical tips on mentoring that I’ve learned along the way…
- Be flexible. It’s good to have a plan for when to meet, what to study, what to expect, etc. but don’t get so caught up in trying to structure your time together that you miss the joy of building that relationship and seeing God move in both of your lives.
- Be intentional. Be present and attentive when you meet together. Follow up between meetings on specific prayer requests and significant moments in her life.
- Be prayerful. Pray for wisdom. Pray for God’s favor. Pray for opportunities to serve and encourage her. Pray for truth to be rooted deeply in both of your lives.
- Be consistent. Make this mentoring relationship a priority; to the best of your ability, be consistent and honor the commitment to be a part of this season in her life.
- Be honest. You don’t need to have it all figured out or have it all together in order to be a good mentor and role model. Being honest about your journey of faith will open doors to authentic conversations and foster an environment where both of you can grow.
- Be willing. Open your heart to the possibilities and trust God to equip you with everything you’ll need to make an impact on the next generation.
Mentee: Kelly Meadors
Alicia and I meet every week on Tuesday (or at least try to meet once a week). At first we used the time to get to know each other. We would grab dinner together, go for walks in the park, get ice cream, etc. We always would end our time together by asking how we could be praying for each other during the week. Devoting time to consistently get in the word every day is something that I have wanted to get better at. Having an accountability partner in Alicia has been a huge blessing. We began doing a study together called Seamless by Angie Smith. It has been so great. I love the way the study is structured and how it lays out the Bible as a complete story. We do the reading and homework throughout the week and then meet together and watch the video and have discussions over the week's material. I was raised in a Christian home, however, I would not say my Bible knowledge outside of the well-known stories is very good. This study has helped me so much in learning more about books of the Bible that I was not as familiar with as well as giving me foundation for understanding things I never have before. Doing this study with my mentor has allowed me to ask questions and dig deeper than if I was doing a study by myself. The relationship I have with Alicia has really developed into something beautiful. She has such a heart for the Lord and it is evident in everything she does. I am so thankful to get to look up to her as a big sister and learn from her personal experiences that she shares with me. I am thankful to Clearview for giving me the opportunity to be nurtured spiritually through this mentorship.